Discussions about “right balance” interpersonally — what if there has been enmeshment, codependency, over-functioning, or under-functioning within a relationship?
If we draw from the issues of balance (or imbalance) within ourselves, what if two people (each with their own idiosyncratic imbalances) get together?
If we take two individuals, each in their own “imperfectness,” out of balance in their own unique ways (we are each our own “unique snowflake” of strengths and weaknesses) then how do these dynamics match up? How do we attend to a healthy balance? Is one of us over-functioning, in ways that collude with the other one’s under-functioning? How do we find “right balance” between TWO individuals??
In this image (above) there is variability, but what about the interactions? (The next image begins to explore the interactions…)
In this (arbitrary) model, below, certain areas are more pronounced in one person, perhaps less pronounced in the other, or perhaps nearly equally pronounced in each partner. Will there be competition? Filling in for one another’s deficits?
