Outline

An exploration of how to find our way back to nature, to each other, and to ourselves so that we may find our right place in the Universe.

Annotated Bibliography

Articles, books, organizations & websites by topics

I have done my best to gather articles, websites, organizations, books, videos, and podcasts which I deem to be like-minded and compatible with one another on this journey. I have sometimes read the items listed thoroughly, and sometimes accepted suggestions from others, so cannot vouch for the merit or validity of everything listed. My hope, however, is that by collaborating and communicating with one another that the common good may be aimed toward.

Some of the things that I list as “blogs” are, for now, merely summaries, quotes, or segments of various articles, and I have not yet added my commentaries.

By and large the summaries offered for each book, article, website or organization are taken directly from the source referenced. Hopefully, therefore, I will not have distorted, misrepresented, nor misquoted and of the above, but I give my apologies in advance if any of those errors took place despite my efforts.

Sincerely,

Deborah Brenner-Liss

Problems

What Went Wrong

1) “Owning the Earth” rather than being “one with the earth”

Became capitalism, classism, economic imbalance, and exploitation of the Earth

 

FRAMEWORK

Model Of Wholeness

What if one member of the couple grew up “adapting” to needing to take very little, and if safety required keeping one’s antennae VERY focused outward, reading the needs and vibes of the “Other?” 

And what if the other partner happened to have grown up in a family-of-origin set of circumstances in which one could only get one’s needs met if one forcefully barged ahead and demanded they be met, without much sensitivity to the needs of the “Other?” 

There would be a configuration set up, contributed to by both parties that would need rearranging in order for the relationship to move toward co-regulating peers, each taking responsibility for their own emotional issues, and being available to the other.

Just as IFS (Internal Family Systems) is a therapeutic modality that helps us to discern whether we are in “right balance” within ourselves, there is another therapeutic modality, IFIO (Intimacy from the Inside Out) which teaches us to each look at our own contributions within relationships.

RESEARCH & RESOURCES

Relevant Resources

We’ve curated a few resources and research to deepen your exploration.

Internal Family Systems Therapy: New Dimensions

Edited by Martha Sweezy and Ellen L. Ziskind, Routledge, NY 2013

Intimacy from the Inside Out

by Toni Herbine-Blank, Donna M. Kerpelman, and Martha Sweezy

Toni Herbine Blank's Website

Toni Herbine-Blank, MS, RN, C-SP, is a Clinical Specialist Psychotherapist and Senior Trainer for the Center for Self Leadership. The Mission of the Intimacy from the Inside Out© programs is to promote the expansion and development of the IFIO model of psychotherapy providing trainings, workshops and retreats for therapists and people everywhere seeking aliveness, hope and meaningful change in their relationships.

Intimacy from the Inside Out - Streaming

This video is an illustration of the importance of the unblending protectors in couples therapy. The work is an example of a dynamic that speaks to a basic human dilemma, I want love and connection and yet I am terrified of love and connection. Toni works skillfully helping each partner become aware of "parts" who in their attempt to protect each individual, get in the way of allowing this couple to have the relationship they desire.

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“It seems (to me) that we have done a lot of harm thus far, to the planet, to the resources that were held in Mother Earth, to other species, and if we do not MAJORLY turn our beliefs and our behaviors around, life as we have known it will be over.”

DEBORAH BRENNER-LISS

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