Trauma, Needs, Protective Maneuvers & Impacts on “Right Balance”?

What if – for instance – we had a very narcissistic demanding parent, and our safety required giving attention to them more than being able to attune to ourselves, explore our own self-awareness, express our own ideas? Or what if we needed to sharply curtail our expectations of receiving from others, as a survival mechanism?? How might these patterns shape our ways of being in the world (which could remain as patterns even when we are no longer in that family-of-origin context)? How might we find our way to a righter balance from these kinds of protective maneuvers? What if, whether due to innate temperament or adaptive necessity, we were adventurous and curious – but not sufficiently balanced by self-care? (Might we put ourselves in danger? I am thinking of kids whose enthusiasm, unbridled by equal amounts of caution wind them up in the ER repeatedly, with broken bones and concussions.)